http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ Hope's Garden: Recent Posts en Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:17:08 +0000 http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-63 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:24:52 +0000 catjan46 63@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>soor should have posted for Hilda :) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-62 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:24:22 +0000 catjan46 62@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>you found this site,,that is fantastic,,we knoow our own inner thoughts better than anyone else.If you think you have a problem then PLease pursue it and get well...One day at a time...so much help available to us. just takes the courage to do it, good luck.:) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=16#post-61 Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:20:24 +0000 catjan46 61@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi: I am jan,,46 and finally doing something about ED(eating disorder), stated treatment last week and as of today one day at a time. Any other older ladies in the same boat?ED is the same for all of us young or older but he is a stalker and a taker of lives. I Know that things are going to get better. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=14#post-60 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 19:45:33 +0000 smileyouknow 60@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>stomaches from eating for a person with an eating disorder could make them wanna purge. anorexia stomaches hurt for me in the mornings, around 7 am and then like it susides abit but when lunch comes around you'll wanna cry your one side of your stomache pierces and then try and pretend your okai because you know that starving is suppose to work. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=14#post-59 Mon, 15 Feb 2010 19:45:31 +0000 smileyouknow 59@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>stomaches from eating for a person with an eating disorder could make them wanna purge. anorexia stomaches hurt for me in the mornings, around 7 am and then like it susides abit but when lunch comes around you'll wanna cry your one side of your stomache pierces and then try and pretend your okai because you know that starving is suppose to work. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-58 Wed, 27 Jan 2010 13:21:53 +0000 smileyouknow 58@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>hi.<br /> um I have noticed that most people posting are girls. I am a young man that is currently suffering from bulimia. it is a very serious condition. well disorder. I think that I don't like think about my weight as I use to when I had been anorexic and then worked my way into anorexia athletica I guess when I get into trying to do 'healthy' excersizing as a alternative I go alittle over board and take out eating.um. I don't think about it really that much when I purge now because it's more so habit. I don't know it really sucks because I think about people who just don't do anything when they eat something. like this don't run to the bathroom after, or run to the gym. and like it makes me feel really bad lie when anyone makes like a generally nice meal for me because I know and they know that I'm going to throw it up, it's come to the poin where no one really stops me, it is expected to happen. I don't know what I am going to do or how ready I am. I talk to the doctors, and they think I should jus stop. but it's not like that. 4-6 times most of the time, and about 8 -16 heaves. to get it all out it really suckkkks. I'm sorry for being a little descriptive but this a real issue. I have been holding back from thinking it's an issue and I think I'm possibly ready to seek a group and help. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=8#post-57 Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:04:05 +0000 caloriecraze 57@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>To elaborate a little on what was written earlier..I have a psychiatrist who knows me better than I know myself and a dietician who wants results and has seemed to be going in a different direction than I was. Now I know where she's at, I feel betrayed somewhat, and very vulnerable, but...it is I that has to find the strength to figure this out. I need to for longevity, for peace and for unity with my daughter. Should she ever struggle I want to be there for her. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=8#post-56 Mon, 04 Jan 2010 16:47:49 +0000 caloriecraze 56@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>I have found that since reaching out with this whole dilemna, that it is easy to be misunderstood and virtually unheard. I keep going because I too have a daughter at a vulnerable age who is endeavouring to become a model. These endeavours are coming through and she is now restricting and watching me! Tough days!! I know there has to be resolution so I will continue to address my needs and hope my fears and set backs don't mount as I try. We do need to encourage each other because no one else out there really really understands. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=15#post-55 Mon, 28 Dec 2009 21:05:14 +0000 ksarnovs 55@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hello everybody! I am new to the Hope's Garden network. I have been struggling with an eating disorder and depression for about 2 years now. To orient myself to the discussion board, I thought I would make a posting. I want everyone who reads this to know that I am in a constant struggle and need as much support as I can get. I am fully willing to return support to anyone else who is in need because I know what you are going through. Thanks! </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=14#post-54 Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:31:49 +0000 Boatwoman 54@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Dec 10, 2009</p> <p>My son also complains about stomach aches also? Do they ever stop??? </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=14#post-53 Fri, 04 Dec 2009 17:56:21 +0000 Annette 53@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>when do the stomach aches stop? our daughter still complains of terrible stomach aches all the time. I am worried she will want to stop eating again, </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=12#post-52 Mon, 02 Nov 2009 22:23:26 +0000 Annette 52@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi there, well, I think we have been lucky that our battle is easing up now, our daughter too was diagnosed first with EDNOS in Aug. but by the time we had the appt. at the clinic, we were told it was indeed anorexia nervosa, she had by then lost 15 % of her body weight and lost her period for 3 months. she had given up eating nearly everything but veggies and cereal and milk, and peanut butter to keep her going.... we were so fearful of going forward and helping in her recovery.....but it is getting better. I am happy to have another parent to talk with as well. no one really understands what it is like to help a child with and eating disorder if they havent been there. you can email me as well.<br /> <a href="mailto:wetheschells@yahoo.ca">wetheschells@yahoo.ca</a><br /> Annette </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=13#post-51 Mon, 02 Nov 2009 21:51:47 +0000 Annette 51@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>are there any parent on line support groups? </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=12#post-50 Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:42:06 +0000 morriche 50@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>My daughter was diagnosed with ED NOS, 6 months ago. She has been in outpatient treatment and day treatment. i am feeling so helpless and i dont know who to talk to about my feelings. i am so tired of being understanding and worrying constantly about my daughter and her well being. i wonder if she will ever be able to beat ED and if she cant what does that mean.<br /> i need to talk to some parents that are feeling like me so i dont feel so alone and i can get some support </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=11#post-49 Mon, 21 Sep 2009 15:50:34 +0000 edit 49@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>throw </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-48 Tue, 01 Sep 2009 09:31:22 +0000 sarah3278 48@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi<br /> Responding to the last comment. I am a bit older then you...but understand completely...as do most people on this site. It is a great way to find people that we can relate too. I also have anorexia - have not been in hospital yet but they told me if i continued i would. I just don't think i'm that skinny to be in critical care yet.<br /> You have to find the underlying issue of why you are not eating though - and then work from there. It might be really hard...but it will then help.<br /> I'm here if you need me </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=10#post-47 Tue, 01 Sep 2009 09:28:46 +0000 sarah3278 47@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hello<br /> I can not relate to it exactly but in some ways i can. I was doing well for the last couple year...eating healthy, exercising etc. but had a relapse recently finding out that my best-friend, the most important person in the world...my grandpa, is sick. I don't know why i started again...i think it's because we are so attached to people and i can't really cope with it.<br /> I've never really heard of caregiver burnout...could you explain more?<br /> Hope this is some kind of answer... </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-46 Tue, 01 Sep 2009 09:25:43 +0000 sarah3278 46@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>As having an ED myself, I found out that is wasn't just about the food as well. It's something deeper than that...and it's just a way of coping with it. For myself, my grandpa is really sick and i can not bear losing him, so i guess i just turn to this as a way of coping.<br /> I really hope you can find a good doctor...some social workers /counsellors are also good ideas. If the doctor does not consider this as a major problem (as do some people as well....i.e. "just eat...it's not that hard"..) then it's better to change to one that does.<br /> Hope it helps. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=10#post-45 Fri, 14 Aug 2009 20:32:50 +0000 GreenBuddha 45@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hello</p> <p>I just registered to this forum. I have spent the last 5 years with the love of my life. Someone who unlike others in my life, stood by me and helped me through troubling times with my Eating Disorder and other psychological conditions. </p> <p>Six days ago, that relationship ended as my most recent relapse progressed. Making this the worst yet since leaving IP treatment a year ago. Jealously sparked wildly as my ED thoughts screamed over my sense of better judgment. Other underlying issues presented themselves as well. But as the days pass, I realize that it was mainly caregiver burnout.</p> <p>Until I am more stable in recovery this relationship is limited greatly. Though he will still be there to support me emotionally; he will also be distant. Treatment will not guarantee a second chance for this love either based on the level of caregiver burnout experienced by him.</p> <p>Just wondering if anyone else here can relate to this experience. </p> <p>Cheers. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-44 Wed, 12 Aug 2009 10:57:42 +0000 confused401 44@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>hi im new to this hopes garden but i really need support right now for about 2 years i have had anorexia and have tried multiple times to make a recovery unfortunately i relapsed twice and i am now once again trying to recover only this time i am facing the possibility of a treatment center in London at the beginning of my grade nine year i want more than anything to get better but i dont believe that i am at the point where treatment away from home is necessary ( i am NOT incredibly underweight at this point) and i truly believe i can do this with support from others i guess what i am asking is does any one have a similar story or piece of advice to motivate me or put my mind at ease. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-43 Tue, 07 Jul 2009 17:26:23 +0000 Sunshine 43@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>I have read this book, Your Child's Weight: Helping without Harming by Ellyn Satter. It was helpful! </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-42 Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:28:05 +0000 Sunshine 42@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>My mom and my sister suffer from eating disorders. My sister now has kids. We went to the community event at the NEDIC conference. This community event was a presentation by the author of "I'm like so fat: helping your teen make healthy choices about eating and exercise in a weight obsessed world". The author, Dianne Neumark-Stzainer, said she does research to prevent eating disorders in teenagers. Her presentation was great and I'm looking forward to reading the book--I bought it at the event! There are lots of other books at the Hope's Garden Library like "101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body". <a href="http://www.hopesgarden.org/resources/library" rel="nofollow">http://www.hopesgarden.org/resources/library</a> </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-41 Fri, 15 May 2009 14:32:07 +0000 Hilda 41@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Thanks for responding.I have been learning that it goes much deeper than just being food related.I guess Im kind of scared of the fact that I have some issues from my past that Ive never dealt with.Throughout my life Ive always felt invisible to others.I have always been shy and never spoke up.I have been hurt in the past not physically ,just never felt important to anyone I guess.It sticks with you deep down and it hurts.I am at home and don't work so being home allday makes it hard.I just find it hard sometimes to wait to talk to someone.I just hope my counselor can get me to open up..Ive never been to a counselor ever in my life and am a bit nervous about it.My husband went with me the first visit he is trying to be supportive but I don't think he really understands all of this.Its not hard to hide things from him I have been doing it for 2o yrs .Its hard to tell him things sometimes because Im not sure he will understand all of it.Thanks for responding. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-40 Fri, 15 May 2009 13:41:26 +0000 tiger_lily 40@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi Hilda,</p> <p>I've heard from other women that they've had similar experiences with doctors (they were told that they're fine and they're just "overreacting"). That makes me very angry. There's nothing worse than confiding in a (medical) professional who's supposed to help you and not getting their support. It's unfortunate how little some doctors know about eating disorders. I know it might be difficult, but try to see if you can maybe find a doctor who is knowledgable on the subject and has worked with patients who have eating disorders. If you can't find what you're looking for in terms of a physician, perhaps finding a good therapist is what could help you. I think that if YOU feel that you have a problem and if it's been going on for over 20 years and continues to control your life then it's something worth addressing. Maybe the right therapist can help you figure out if you have a "problem" or not. Because really, although eating disorders are "about food" and weight and all that, at their very core they are not ACTUALLY just "about the food". It goes so much deeper than that. So maybe the therapist could help you figure out and deal with what's behind it all.... </p> <p>I hope this has helped in some way! :) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-39 Fri, 15 May 2009 08:12:33 +0000 Hilda 39@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>This message is for Nadine.I am so glad there is someone here I can realate to as far as age .I am also 40 yrs old.I have been dealing with disordered eating since I was 14 yrs old.There have been times here and there where I seemed to de doing ok but whenever I tried to do it myself the weight would come on and I would freak out and restrict my food again.I also have a daughter she is 9.Lat year i found her in her room crying when I asked what was wrong she told me the kids at school were telling her she was fat.She is such a beautiful little girl and isn't even close to being fat.Well I have been there and i just started to cry too because It brought me back to when I got teased.It really hurts and stays with you all your life.My kids are noticing my disordered eating and I want to protect her as well so she doesn't fall into the cycle zI'm in.I am not considered anorexic because Im not underweight and I still menstruate.The lowest i weighed was 99lbs at 5ft tall.Even at that weight I still wanted to lose more.I have never made myself get sick but have done other things to try to lose the weight.Its so hard to fix something that you've done for 26 yrs .I am going to see a counselor next week so i hope somehow this will help.I just don't see me getting fully better because I don't want to put any weight on. I just wanted you to know that there is others out there that are dealing with these problems too.Maybe we can support each other through this post.Hope to hear freom you soon.Good luck! </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-38 Thu, 14 May 2009 17:51:24 +0000 Hilda 38@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>I am replying to my own post to fix a mistake Its ED-NOS not ED-NOD that I am referring to! </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=9#post-37 Thu, 14 May 2009 17:49:06 +0000 Hilda 37@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi there I have confided to a friend that I think I have an eating disorder.I am 40 yrs old and have been dealing with disordered eating since I was 14 yrs old.Before that I was always teased about being chubby.I hated myself..this has carried on throughout my life(hateing myself) I have always had a low self esteem.I have used laxatives in the past 2 years to help lose some weight not realizing the harm it can do.Now Im dealing with fluid retention and Im misserable because I feel like a water balloon .it makes me feel fat.I am very obsessed with my weight .I weigh myself everyday and am brought to tears when the scale goes up a pound or 2.My lowest weight was 99lbs ..now I am 103 lbs @ 5ft.I am not considered unerweight so Im not considered to be anorexic or Bulimic.I never really thought I had a problem until I searched the internet about fluid retention and stumbled upon an eating disorder site and found out about the use of laxatives and then started to realize I might have a problem.I just moved here and have a new doctor ..I told him about this and was totally humiliated by his response ..he didn't think It was a serious matter.So now I feel so confused do I have a problem or not?He made me feel like I was overreacting.I filled out a test on-line and was told from it that I should seek some kind of help.I just want someone to tell me that they believe it is possiblt ED-NOD that I am dealing with.From what I learned ED-NOD is what they consider you if you don't fit the criterie for anorexia because you are not underweight and still menstruating.Does anybody think I should continue seeking help or not?Hope to hear from someone! </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-36 Tue, 21 Apr 2009 17:48:28 +0000 Loretta 36@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hey girl! I honestly can't pinpoint it down to one specific thing and am still uncertain sometimes as to how I even did it. I started going to a wonderful church in London and I know that it helped clear my head a lot and made me want to get better. I also hadn't worked for a few years cause i was too ill but i finally became able to get a job which did help as i was no longer able to exercise hours upon hours everyday. It is a very tough thing to overcome and at the time I never thought I would survive it but surprisingly I did and life is getting better although i do have the occasional day where 'anorexia' feels like it is trying to pull me back but i am strong enough to know i don't want to go through that again. I'm not sure if that helped at all but feel free to ask anything anytime. I no longer feel ashamed about having the disease and all i want now is to help anyone else in anyway i can. i know it helps to be able to chat with someone who was in the same situation and to realize you are never alone. I am here for you and hope that you will find the strength to beat this too. :) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-35 Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:35:05 +0000 tiger_lily 35@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi Loretta,<br /> I know this is a really broad question with no real "answer" because it's different for everyone, but I'm just curious to get insight into different peoples' experiences with recovery in the hopes of maybe having it help me with my own.... If you don't mind me asking, was there anything in particular that was really helpful for you in getting over this disorder? Like was there anything specific that you'd attribute your recovery to? Maybe connecting with a certain person in your life or maybe letting go of one, moving to a new city, getting a new job - something along those lines? I realize it's not that simple and maybe there was nothing like that for you, but I just feel like I've been dealing with this for so long and I still don't know what it's going to take for me to get out of it.... </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-34 Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:34:12 +0000 tiger_lily 34@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi Loretta,<br /> I know this is a really broad question with no real "answer" because it's different for everyone, but I'm just curious to get insight into different peoples' experiences with recovery in the hopes of maybe having it help me with my own.... If you don't mind me asking, was there anything in particular that was really helpful for you in getting over this disorder? Like was there anything specific that you'd attribute your recovery to? Maybe connecting with a certain person in your life or maybe letting go of one, moving to a new city, getting a new job - something along those lines? I realize it's not that simple and maybe there was nothing like that for you, but I just feel like I've been dealing with this for so long and I still don't know what it's going to take for me to get out of it.... </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-33 Wed, 15 Apr 2009 19:33:35 +0000 tiger_lily 33@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hi Loretta,<br /> I know this is a really broad question with no real "answer" because it's different for everyone, but I'm just curious to get insight into different peoples' experiences with recovery in the hopes of maybe having it help me with my own.... If you don't mind me asking, was there anything in particular that was really helpful for you in getting over this disorder? Like was there anything specific that you'd attribute your recovery to? Maybe connecting with a certain person in your life or maybe letting go of one, moving to a new city, getting a new job - something along those lines? I realize it's not that simple and maybe there was nothing like that for you, but I just feel like I've been dealing with this for so long and I still don't know what it's going to take for me to get out of it.... </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=6#post-32 Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:56:14 +0000 Loretta 32@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Hey there,<br /> I had an eating disorder for nine years and experienced many of the same thoughts you guys did. It was an extremely tough time in my life but I made it through and got better so there is hope for all of you. Any fears you have or any questions feel free to discuss with me. I found when I spoke to people who had been through it and survived it I felt better about things. I wish you all the best in your recovery :) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=8#post-31 Sat, 28 Mar 2009 22:34:57 +0000 tiger_lily 31@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>....and because I feel like I don't have many people I can get real support from, that's why I want to find some sort of way to find support and strength within myself. Something I can visualize or say to myself or whatever, that makes me feel like I've got something to hold on to and that I'm alright. That's what I was hoping to get suggestions for. (I know - that's a tough one!!!) </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=8#post-30 Sat, 28 Mar 2009 22:30:15 +0000 tiger_lily 30@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>Ya, I have those exact same thoughts and feelings. And I get the thing about putting on weight because you don't end up getting rid of absolutely everything you eat. That makes me really depressed. It's such a horrible feeling to be so strict and controlling with your body only to realize that really you don't have any control at all because no matter how much you binge, purge, or starve, you're never happy.... It just goes to show that there is so much more behind this disorder than food. That's why I've been trying to hard to find things that help me feel strong and smart and worth something because one of my problems is that I have like no self-confidence (not only about my body but just in everything.) So if I were somehow able to gain some confidence and learn to love myself, maybe the eating disorder might ease up because it totally feeds off my self-hatred. </p> http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/topic.php?id=8#post-29 Mon, 23 Mar 2009 10:57:43 +0000 volcomstone 29@http://www.hopesgarden.org/forum/ <p>I battle with this all the time. I try and go all day without binging but then sometimes at the end of the day I can't help it. As I'm binging millions of thoughts are running through my head but none are great enough to tell me to stop what I'm doing. It's like once I've started I may as well keep going. Sometimes, as stupid as this sounds, I look at it as though I can eat whatever I want and a bunch of 'bad foods' because I know I'm going to purge right after. It's dumb rationality because not all of it ends up getting purged and as I result I generally end up putting on weight. It's only when I eat healthy and exercise do I notice a difference, but I can only stay on that track for so long before the next binge episode.<br /> I wish I had a source of strength such as your necklace tiger_lily but I haven't been able to as of yet. Are your thoughts similar to mine? </p>